ADVERTISEMENT | I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years now, and for the first year, we were long distance (I lived in the US while my boyfriend lived in Denmark). For this post, I wanted to share some truths about long distance relationships.
#1 Long Distance Relationships Can Work
Just because long distance relationships do not work for everyone, it does not mean they cannot work. Yes, it is hard being apart from your partner especially when you are in different countries, and it can at times be emotionally draining. You can also feel lonely and miss your partner more so than if you lived nearby. However, with perseverance and commitment from both you and your partner, long distance relationships can lead to long-term relationships.
#2 Communication is Extra Important
With all relationships, communication is important, but when in a long distance relationship, communication is especially important when you cannot see your partner regularly. With me and my boyfriend, we found times we were both free to talk such as in the mornings before I had classes at my university and also in the evenings before I went to bed. It is good to stay in touch with your partner, but at the same time, both of you need to be able to live your own life. Like when I had my classes and my boyfriend had work, we were not able to talk to each other and we did not expect to talk during those times. You also need to be able to trust each other, and if any problems or concerns do come up, talk them out with your partner and do not avoid them. Furthermore, communication does not always have to be phone calls or video chats. It can be sending texts, messages, pictures, or even emails. If you are in a long distance relationship, it is important to communicate with your partner, but at the same time understand that both of you have your own lives.
#3 Not Everyone Will Be Supportive
If you are in a long distance relationship, be prepared for people to not understand your relationship. Your friends, co-workers, and family may doubt your partner exists or they will think you are not in a real relationship. They may tell you that your relationship will not last because you do not see your partner often. They might also recommend you meet someone closer instead and join free uk dating sites like matchmehappy.co.uk. Luckily, most of my friends as well as my parents were supportive of my relationship with my boyfriend, but that may not be the case for everyone in a long distance relationship.
#4 Travel is Expensive
When you do not live close to your partner, traveling to visit them can be expensive whether it is paying for gas to drive or buying a roundtrip flight ticket. Since I lived in the US and my boyfriend lived in Denmark, buying flight tickets were our only option, and they were over $1,000. On top of that, when we visited each other, we spent many days out visiting tourist attractions, which added to the cost of the trip. Furthermore, when me and my boyfriend decided to move in together, there was the huge cost of flights and visa applications. When you are in a long distance relationship, it is good to think about the cost of travel and potentially moving because it requires planning and saving in order to visit and live with each other.
#5 Meeting The First Time Can Be Awkward
If you met your partner online, meeting for the first time can be awkward. Me and my boyfriend were dating for several months before we finally met (we met each other online about 6 months before we started dating), and the first time we met at the airport, it was a bit of shock since I was finally seeing him in person. On the drive back to my parents’ house, it was awkward because I was shy and I did not really know what to say. However, as we spent more time with each other, it was not awkward being around him. If you are in a long distance relationship and you met your partner online, be prepared that the first time meeting each other may be awkward.
#6 Tough Decisions Ahead
Being in a long distance relationship requires tough decisions such as what are your plans for the future with your partner? One hard decision me and my boyfriend had to figure out is who will come to visit and when. Since I was studying and my boyfriend was working, we had to figure out a time when I did not have classes and he could take time off. The first time we met was during spring break when he came to visit me for a week. Then during the following summer, I came to visit him for a month. If you are in a long-term relationship with your partner, you may also be thinking about moving in together. One of the most difficult decisions is deciding where you will move together. For me and my boyfriend, one of us was going to be leaving our family and friends behind. We ended up moving to Denmark together, and at times I do miss my parents and friends, so moving in together is definitely a big and difficult decision to make. After you move in together, another decision you and your partner will have to make is whose family will you be spending the holidays with. Since my parents live so far away and flights are expensive, we have spent the past few Christmases with my boyfriend’s family, but if it is possible to spend the holidays with either your or your partner’s family, it is a decision you and your partner will have to make. These are just a few examples of tough decisions that are not necessarily exclusive to long distance relationships, but they are a big part.
Have you been in a long distance relationship before?